Does having a threesome make you desperate?

Demi Moore just released a new book where she reveals that she had threesomes for the sole intention of keeping her husband happy. What is going on that women, as rich and beautiful as Demi Moore are so desperate?  I will unpack this question throughout this story. If Demi would have announced her threesome for the purpose of her desire, plus her husband’s it would have been empowering, from my perspective. But the sad truth is that she says that she only did it to keep him satisfied in marriage.

 

Now let me reveal something juicy to you that happened ten years ago. I have delighted myself in a threesome with one of my best friends in the whole wide world and his wife. I remember it was planned out ceremoniously with candles, essential oils, soft melodies, and dim lighting. This was the first time I would be experiencing something like this, even though I loved them both I was nervous. They could sense this I believe and so they spoke some words of affirmation to me and each other and then started slowly massaging fragrant oils on my body.

 

I remember during the event I felt like I was the prized person between the two of them trying to assemble themselves around me. I felt almost glorified, yet also completely disassociated as later I stepped back and let them rapture each other, as I slowly walked away. We are all still supportive, friendly, and most importantly respectful of one another to this day. In fact, one of the hallmark moments of the threesome was when his wife told me, Thank you for being with my husband. Yes, she said that to me as I exited the mancave. We both knew it was the best thing that ever happened to us, yet the last time it would occur. There was no drama, no regret, just mature understanding.

 

Maybe it was because she was pregnant at the time and having regular sex was not comfortable, I’m not sure. Fast forward to three years ago when I was being pleaded with to have a threesome in my five-year relationship. It was a completely different situation with no reverence or respect like I had once felt from that former threesome. I repeatedly said no to my then-boyfriend. I was repealed at the idea of having such a sexual experience with him because I could feel he did not value my needs for such a hypothetical situation to manifest. I did not feel safe doing it, so it never happened.

 

After I said, no to having a threesome the relationship crumbled and the ADPD began revealing itself to me more. I am blessed I did not do it with him because he was looking to fulfill his own benefit, not ours. I nearly died trying to cope with the mourning of that relationship because I was so young at the time. If I would have had a threesome and then experienced that breakup, I may not be here today. I could not muster any more pain to deal with and I am happy I never had a threesome with him.

 

I would like to know if her ex would have suffered this way for her?  I doubt it. I know it hurts to want attention from your man and he does not give it to you. I know it hurts your heart and soul but therein lays the problem. You are not meant to give him your soul. You are meant to keep your soul for yourself. Adding to your soul’s fulfillment, not allowing someone else to take! This is the insecure woman’s problem – bargaining her worth for a man. Something as priceless as your soul is never actionable!

 

Nearly 80% of women report feeling more self-confident after using Yoni Eggs. I believe this is because Yoni Eggs help women reclaim their body and sexuality on their own terms, no one else’s. Chasing a man, such as through having a threesome while discrediting yourself does make you succumbed to his approval of you, and thus desperate. This is what women who are still seeking self-empowerment do which can be so harmful to not only you but the man himself who now believes he is privileged enough to have soul-ownership of you.

 

I experienced the desperate confusion that Demi Moore described in her interviews when I was still coupled with the ex I refused a threesome with, and it was because he played off of my father-void. Now that I know this, I cannot run to another man to be my father but grow into my own father to establish my personal power through boundaries and connecting to other high-esteemed women.

 

 

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