Recently I’ve noticed lots of men complaining on YouTube saying women aren’t feminine anymore. They say that seeing a feminine woman is seeing a unicorn. They use images of white starlets from black and white movies who starved themselves thin before it was known that was an eating disorder.
The unfortunate limitation of men is that he is too visual and is basing his idea of femininity on his mere sight. Men are scientifically proven to use fewer senses in comparison to women. So to identify a feminine woman from a man’s perspective is to only see her superficially. So if you believe women are too masculine, I argue to open up your idea of what femininity is and what cultivates true femininity. This article is all about how femininity lays in a woman’s heart. So men you want more feminine women, ask, “how can I know her heart?, it will motivate her femininity to immediately blossom.
Women are practically walking compasses. We are connected to the rhythms of the earth, our menstrual and ovulation cycles depend on this connection to be feminine and healthy. This connection is her superpower. Women, unlike men, can hear and intuit information from a vast scope of sensory stimulation – newborn babies depend on this acute skill to be nourished and cultivated them optimally. This sensory skill is dependant on her level of openness and receptivity in her environment. In order for her to be open and receptive, she MUST…MUST…MUST feel c-o-m-p-l-e-t-e-l-y safe! I cannot say this enough. In reality men, you are walking into her world if you are to truly perceive her femininity completely.
Women must cultivate their own heart and this means knowing when to place boundaries, which requires her to indeed have some developed masculine energy to know when to say, “no” and be assertive.
An open-woman is an open heart. I argue that you cannot know a woman as feminine in a casual exchange. To know a woman’s heart takes penetrating beyond a superficial demeanor. Find out the story of her heart. To open a woman’s heart, you must have an open heart yourself, there is no other way. The spirit of her femininity is a little girl. Not all men are prepared for the sacred journey. It requires him to be consistent, patient, non-reactive and totally dedicated to a woman’s heart. A woman’s heart can greatly awaken a man to be more present and want to protect her. Men, here is where the miscommunication comes in with women, we are grateful you protect us through material means, but we need you to protect our heart – it is of priority in intimate relationships.
Cultivation of true femininity appears witchy, deviant, suspect, and mystical to our counterpart’s simple senses. For example, many of us women look up at the moon to know when our period is coming. We may need to rock back and forth, massaging our tummies while moaning to ease the period pain. We may go cross-eyed during the climax because we are in a state of trance. We go into a state of trance in orgasm and vaginal birth. Please understand men that these practices were seen as highly threatening to the religion and old-school patriarchy. Women have been historically mutilated for practicing the full scope of her femininity, not to mention female genital mutilation and being called witches when we were really midwives and herbalist.
Women’s abundance of fatty tissue and moist vaginal cave stores so much memory and awareness, that still remembers these egregious experiences on a biological level. So she intuitively knows she can never be 100% feminine in the public eye because she would indeed appear to be a unicorn and she will be immediately perceived as crazy. If you don’t think so, imagine a woman staring up at the clouds humming and chanting words, while having her eyes closed. In public it would just seem unfortunately strange.
So men, please understand this corporate, governmental, bureaucratic, residually religious concrete jungle is not the safest for 100% raw feminine energy. Men, please open your heart despite a woman’s close-heart. There is likely shame and confusion of how to “appropriately” express the fullness of her raw femininity in moments of emotion for her, that is why she must know she can trust you to expose you to that side of her. Especially, in a culture that still demonizes overt female sexual expression, which is an overt feminine expression.
Women become too masculine when they overly protect their heart. Usually a closed heart in a woman means a closed Yoni (vaginal cave). The heart’s reflexology point in the vaginal canal (under the cervix) opens the vaginal canal deeper when the woman is relaxed and in a full state of trust. If her trust is misused her heart’s reflexology point will not open the same. In fact, sometimes it may capture the pain and therefore feel tender and raw after a heartbreak. Women who have had wide open heart’s take time to open up again, do not judge her for this. I mean, would you want a woman who opens herself wide up again after being disillusioned? No, of course not, be a part of her healing process by being the shepherd to her heart and it will, in turn, feed yours!
Yes, it is true many women have daddy-issues, but that is because her heart more than likely was not a priority for her father. More than likely at some point gentlemen, you may trigger her father-related issues and you must remember at this moment to stand firm and reassure her heart. This is the case if its sexual trauma, abortion, miscarriage, or a painful period. To complain about a lack of femininity in women is to invalidate the reasons she may have closed her heart.
The first thing to know about divine feminine energy is that it is so open it suctions-in energy like a black-hole or ovulating vagina. To be open or fertile to this extent is to be feminine. I agree men need a higher ratio of open-hearted women to men in order to keep men balanced and less war-like and destructive. However, just because you have a feminine woman today does not mean you have a feminine woman tomorrow. So consistently commune with her heart, it will guide you to her feminine side and you will be healing her in ways that only a true, authentic man can!